The 5 "I Will Never" statements of raising a daughter

My daughter and I at the movies together.

Growing up I had a great mom. I always knew she loved me and I was spoiled. I was the baby of the family and the only girl. I was destined to be spoiled.

But once I became a teenager my mom abandoned me emotionally and sometimes even physically. I was also abandoned by my dad at that time because of a divorce. But that is a story for a different day.

Because of my continued strained relationship with my mom it has caused me to have “I will never” statements when it came to raising my own daughter. 

1. I will never stop telling my daughter she is loved every day. It is so important to hear the words that you are loved and so very important for girls. If they don’t feel love from their mom and dad they will go looking for it in a boy.
2. I will never tell her she is not good enough to try something she wants to try. I want to be a mom that encourages my daughter to strive for more and test her boundaries when it comes to goals and skills. She is capable of doing great things and I want to be her greatest cheerleader not her greatest discourager.
3. I will never stop touching her or hugging her. She is my baby girl no matter how old she gets and I will never stop showing her affection. When I hit puberty the affection I received from my dad came to an abrupt stop. I will always give her the touch she needs, and I will never leave her thirsty for affection.
4. I will never belittle her. She has such a great value and importance not only to me but in front of God. She is perfect in His eyes and I want to communicate that love He has for her through me. It doesn’t matter how much she weighs, how she chooses to wear her hair or if she decides to wear stripes with polka dots. I always want her to know she is enough.
5. I will never get into a shouting match with her. When emotions rise, things are said that you usually don’t mean, but they still cut deeply. I will never hurt my daughter by saying things out of anger that could hurt and pierce her heart forever. 

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